Q: “My company is hosting its annual retreat in the Bahamas. Can you offer some advice on etiquette tips for vacationing with my co-workers?”
A: The first thing to keep in mind is that you’re not actually on vacation. While it’s tempting to think “what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas,” this does not fly when traveling with colleagues for business. Even though you are physically not in the office, it is best to remember that your colleagues and bosses are still watching you and the rules of the office still apply. Keep your attire business casual but appropriate for the tropical climate and leave the micro thong at home. Hold off on that extra piña colada, even though it’s calling your name because it may give you courage to approach your office
crush or challenge your boss to beer pong. Speaking of which, this is not the time to make your “office spouse” your “vacation fling”. This will only ignite rumors back at the water cooler and may cause you to get foggy at work if your vacation fling becomes Mr. Silent Treatment. Last but not least, remember that your boss is still your boss even though you are at a resort and he’s wearing a floral mankini.
Q: “I’ve been passed over for a promotion and a lesser qualified colleague promoted instead. Should I approach management to discuss my value to the company, or is it time for me to consider leaving?”
A: It’s certainly disappointing to be passed over for a promotion, but before you storm out with resignation in hand, consider a few things. First, a face-to-face meeting with your boss may be a helpful way to figure out why you were passed over and what you can do differently in the future. Second, evaluate your professional and personal relationships in the office and find a sponsor – an influential person who is willing to go to bat for you the next time around. Finally,
there could be some office politics at play in the promotion decision. Perhaps while you’ve been busy working, Suzy next door or Billy down the hall have been putting in face time with the boss – at lunch, after work drinks or at the occasional golf outing. People promote the people they like. If you’re still feeling left out in the cold, it may be time to consider polishing up your resume.